The following are some great resources that I am confident can help you on your journey to becoming THE expert with your kids about sex. I am personally acquainted with most of these resources and/or the authors themselves.
Having the Talk is a series of two different video courses that walks parents through biological and biblical concepts about sexuality that children need to know. They also explain how to talk about each concept in a developmentally appropriate way with children.
What's included in each course? In each of the two courses, there are eight video lessons and several bonus lessons. Parents will also receive a digital download of the accompanying book for each course: The Talk: 7 Lessons to Introduce Your Child to Biblical Sexuality or Changes: 7 Biblical Lessons to Make Sense of Puberty.
Who is this course for? This course is for parents who might be nervous or uncertain about how to approach the topic of sexual education with their children and need a little help beyond what the books alone offer.
Whether you're just starting sex education with your toddler or with your teen, there's a book here to help guide you through most any conversation.
The Talk: 7 Lessons to Introduce Your Child to Biblical Sexuality by Luke Gilkerson is a series of devotionals that helps parents lay a great foundation for healthy sexuality from a biblical perspective. I recommend this for parents with children in Kindergarten through 3rd grade.
Changes: 7 Biblical Lessons to Make Sense of Puberty by Luke & Trisha Gilkerson is a series of devotionals that helps parents teach their children about puberty from a biblical perspective. I recommend this for children in 3rd through 6th grades, depending on their maturity level.
Relationships: 11 Lessons to Give Kids a Greater Understanding of Biblical Sexuality by Luke & Trisha Gilkerson is a series of devotionals to help parents teach their children how to navigate sexual desires and temptations in a godly way. I recommend this for parents with children in junior high and/or high school.
More Than Just the Talk: Becoming Your Kids' Go-To Person About Sex by Jonathan McKee is a tell-it-like-it-is book written from the perspective of an experienced Christian youth worker. This book really opens parents' eyes to how, when and where pre-teens and teens are learning about sex. I recommend this book for parents and spiritual leaders. I also recommend buying its companion book for pre-teens and teens, Sex Matters.
Sex Matters by Jonathan McKee is a straightforward book written from the perspective of an experienced Christian youth worker that gives pre-teens and teens REAL answers to the REAL questions they have about sex. I recommend this book for pre-teens and teens. I also recommend buying its companion book for parents, More Than Just The Talk.
Talking to Your Kids About Sex: How to Have a Lifetime of Age-Appropriate Conversations with Your Children About Healthy Sexuality by Dr. Mark Laaser is written from the perspective of an experienced therapist who specializes in helping men and couples overcome sexual addiction. This book not only guides parents through teaching their children healthy sexuality, but it also helps them examine and understand their own sexual beliefs and struggles. I especially recommend this book to parents who have problems with their own sexuality, but is suited for all parents.
The following resources can help you further educate yourself and your children about pornography, how to avoid it, how it affects people and how to get help if it becomes a struggle.
Good Pictures Bad Pictures: Porn-Proofing Today's Young Kids by Kristen A. Jenson and Dr. Gail A. Poyner is a comfortable, read-aloud story about a mom and dad who teach their child what pornography is, why it's dangerous, and how to reject it. Using easy-to-understand science and simple analogies, this ground-breaking book engages young kids to porn-proof their own brains. This book is a #1 best-selling book on Amazon. I recommend this book for every parent.
How Pornography Harms by Dr. John D. Foubert is packed with heart-breaking stories and sobering, up-to-date, scientific research about how pornography harms people's brains and how it is strongly connected to sexual violence. Dr. Foubert is an interdisciplinary scholar who has been studying sexual violence for nearly 25 years. I recommend this book for everyone.
Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction by Dr. Mark Laaser traces the roots of sexual addiction, discusses its patterns and impact, and maps out a biblical approach to self-control and sexual integrity. I first read a previous edition of this book, Faithful and True over 12 years ago in graduate school and has long been one of my top resources. I recommend this book for anyone who struggles with sexual sin and/or sexual addiction.
Whether married or single, sometimes us parents need help improving our own sexual health. The fuller and richer a parent's personal understanding of healthy sexuality from God's perspective is, the better they are able to lead their own children to healthy sexual development. These resources are great for parents, but also for young adult children.
A Celebration of Sex: A Guide to Enjoying God's Gift of Sexual Intimacy by Dr. Doug Rosenau, licensed psychologist and Christian sex therapist, provides married couples with detailed techniques and skills for deepening sexual pleasure and intimacy in their relationship. It is also great for premarital education, which is how I was first introduced to this book. (Click here for more about my story)
The Book of Romance: What Solomon Says About Love, Sex, and Intimacy by Tommy Nelson explores the Song of Solomon and what it says about two intimate, passionate lovers. This book teaches couples how they can experience the deep emotional, sexual, and spiritual satisfaction that God created to be enjoyed in marriage. I have shared the highlights of this book with pre-engaged, pre-marital and married couples for many years.
Soul Virgins: Redefining Single Sexuality by Dr. Doug Roseanu and Michael Todd Wilson takes on difficult topics from a biblical perspective to help single adults establish practical models for maintaining purity and creating a healthy sexuality. It contains real, personal stories that helps singles accept their sexuality as a godly discipline.
The Gift of Sex: A Guide to Sexual Fulfillment by Cliff & Joyce Penner. The Penners are premiere experts on healthy biblical sexuality who have, for decades, specialized in not only educating people about healthy biblical sexuality, but also helping couples identify, work through and overcome sexual problems they experience in marriage. I recommend this book for any married couple, but especially for those struggling with sexual problems of various kinds.
Sheet Music: Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage by Kevin Leman is a book that, although I’m not yet personally familiar with, I have heard raving reviews about from different clients. The online reviews of this book, like the others I’ve recommended on this page, speak for themselves.
Sacred Sex: A Spiritual Celebration of Oneness in Marriage by Tim Alan Gardner is also great for couples and singles, including mature teens, who want to establish a rock solid foundation about what healthy biblical sexuality is and what the sacred oneness of sex in marriage, as God designed it, is all about.